2x Founder | Brand Builder | Creator | Investor
Featured in Forbes, Ad Week, Poosh, The Skinny Confidential
Over 110,000 people follow Amanda to learn how to get the most out of life.
Single mom x3
Teaching Productivity to emerging Leaders via Morning Brew
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The biggest change I needed to make to my portfolio business over the past year? Managing cash flow. As a solopreneur, some months can be full of inbound and sales while other months can be quieter.
I'm hosting a FREE webinar on February 20th in partnership with Found banking to share the top tips I've learned in managing cash flow as a Solopreneur to ensure I'm not online hitting $600k in revenue this year, but also $250k in profit.
I'll share the tactical advice on how to build a sales pipeline and look at / manage cash flow as a portfolio business owner.
(After 8 years of separation, divorce and dating as a single mom of 3. )
Life’s a Game is all about professional and personal growth.
And the biggest impact of how your game of life goes is the people you choose to play it with.
When you’ve gone through a divorce, a lot of thoughts play out when you contemplate marriage again.
The loudest one?
“How will I make sure it doesn’t happen again?”
It = divorce.
Today I wanted to share 3 things I know this time around that I wish I’d known the first time.
Whether you are single, dating or have been married for years…..I hope this helps.
The Lion in Love
There is a famous fable about a ferocious lion who meets a girl in the jungle and they fall in love. She takes him back to her village to tell her parents and they express how ferocious he is and how scared they would be to have him around. So they demand he removes his claws and sharp teeth in order to marry their daughter. So in love, the lion agrees. Upon removal, the town laughed at him as he was now weak and helpless. Since he changed himself so much, the girl didn’t want him anymore. He ended up losing the girl and himself in the process.
The moral of the story, you shouldn’t have to change yourself to be accepted and loved.
But we do this right?
We say things like
“I can be perfect for them”.
“If I just work a little harder, they will appreciate me.”
“If I stay happy and positive, they will want to be around me”.
This time around I’ve decided to show up as I am, in each moment, and trust that my partner loves all of me - not just the most palatable, easy side.
Holding up a wall
Imagine a person holding up a leaning wall.
Over time the person gets tired and the wall lowers a bit more. Eventually the weight of the wall becomes too much and crushes the person.
This is what it looks like in a relationship when one person is carrying the emotional load of the relationship.
And if that is happening, trust me when I say, that person will be crushed with resentment and anger.
You can't hold up the entirety of a relationship by yourself.
My horrible stick figures
Running the same pace
A healthy relationship requires two whole people showing up, doing the work, running side by side and moving forward.
But if only one person is doing the work (understanding their emotional triggers, traumas and needs) while the other person stays on the starting line...
eventually you will realize there is too much distance to catch up.
One person will need to run backward (highly unlikely)
or the other person will need to catch-up.
This is why it’s important my partner and I BOTH have therapists.
Sometimes there are things I need to work on, sometimes there are things he needs to work on and sometimes there are things WE need to work on.
The key is setting ourselves up to run the race together.
Relationships are never a “me vs. you” scenario.
It’s an us vs. the external thing that is affecting our relationship.
This mindset wins the race.
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♟️ YOUR TURN:
Steal our monthly check-in that we do together to ensure we are both showing up, as ourselves, for one another.
This is best done over the course of 1-2 hours with little distractions and facing one another. Try it and see how it goes!
Pro tip: Make it a monthly recurring calendar invite and create a ritual. Order your favorite takeout. Go to the park and drink wine.
This should feel like an intimate moment, not a 1:1 with a colleague.
Ready? Let's dive in.
​​Question 1:
Start - Stop - Continue.
What can I start doing to be a great partner?
Is there anything I should stop doing?
What should I continue doing to be a great partner?
This gives you a container for both positive and constructive feedback. If there is something that annoys you and it needs to be addressed, this is the vehicle to deliver that information. ​
Question 2:
List your 3 biggest needs from me this month and how can I fulfill them?
This acknowledges the dynamics of your partner and a relationship. Perhaps work is feeling extra stressful or they are feeling motivated with a new side hustle.
​ ​Question 3:
Is there something I’ve done recently that hurt your feelings?
We should always assume positive intent behind our partners actions (trust and respect are foundations for a healthy relationship) but there are times someones actions can trigger a response they may not know about.
Perhaps that response comes from your childhood or past relationships.
Regardless, it’s important to share the WHY it hurt your feelings as much as the WHAT so they can learn you just as much as they love you.
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Question 4:
When did you feel the most love and connection this past month?
This is an opportunity to reflect on the little things that you both do to show love and care. It helps to acknowledge the other person’s actions and allows for a moment of gratitude.
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Question 5:
Do you feel fulfilled sexually? How could we make our sex life even better?
Whether you’ve been together for 1 month, 1 year or 10 years, this is a question that should be asked.
People change.
Hormones change.
Stay curious to stay intimate.
​ ​Question 6:
What are you dreaming about lately?
It’s time to zoom out and dream together. Dreams for yourself. Dreams for the relationship. This allows you to create macro alignment and make sure everyone is on the same page (or at least the same book).
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Question 7:
What date nights do we have coming up?
Planning something gives you something to be excited about and looking forward to. We make sure to always have our next date night or getaway planned.
2x Founder | Brand Builder | Creator | Investor
Featured in Forbes, Ad Week, Poosh, The Skinny Confidential
Over 110,000 people follow Amanda to learn how to get the most out of life.
Single mom x3
Teaching Productivity to emerging Leaders via Morning Brew
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