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​​Self-Care Burnout:
When Wellness Becomes a Full-Time Job

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Quick Spin:

• Why self-care is starting to feel like another hustle culture
• The rules I now use to simplify my routine
• How to focus on what actually matters

♟️ MY TURN:

I used to believe the answer to burnout was self care.

But in an effort to pursue less ……

it was all about more.

More supplements.
More steps added to my morning routine.
More red light, blue light, no light after 8pm.
More tracking, testing, optimizing.

Until one day I realized I was waking up exhausted by the very routine that was supposed to give me energy.

I had optimized myself into overwhelm.

And here’s the quiet truth:

A lot of what we call “self-care” is just matcha-flavored perfectionism.

We’re trying to fix ourselves with the same mindset that burned us out in the first place.

Even the New York Times wrote a piece recently on the topic.

Here's the thing....wellness is not about adding to a to-do list.

It’s not another area of life to dominate and measure in hopes of “winning.”

It’s a return.

To your body.
Your breath.
Your values.
Your boundaries.

A return to what actually makes you feel good and not what the wellness world says should.

That’s why I’m so excited about the new book, Almost 30.

​Get it here today!

Lindsey Simcik and Krista Williams have pioneered what it means to live an intentional life with their content + leading podcast for over a decade (and they’ve personally helped me so much on my journey of growth and learning what it really means to come back to myself)

​Almost 30 is a love letter to anyone who has built a life that looks good on paper but doesn’t feel like you.

Their story is about the quieter ways burnout sneaks in: overachieving, people-pleasing, slowly erasing parts of yourself in the name of ambition.

It’s about the moment they stopped asking, “How can I do more?” and started asking, “What actually feels safe, fulfilling, and mine?”

So.....in a world telling you the million ways to optimize your life....how can you hear yourself through the noise?

Keep reading 👇

♟ YOUR TURN:

If you’re burned out by your self-care, here’s how to reset ⬇️

Get curious on what’s actually unhealthy first.

Sometimes we turn to ice baths and HIIT workouts without auditing our relationships with ourselves and others.

Getting centered is usually deeper work than just supplements and saunas.

This is a time to re-evaluate what a healthy life means to you…..and simplify.

Ask yourself:

For me? Healthy boundaries, a healthy relationship with myself, my partner and my children is the foundation.

Choose your non-negotiables

We can't do everything, every day. Instead I ask: What 2 or 3 things give me the biggest return on how I feel - physically and emotionally?

For me, it’s:

• Moving my body every day (even if it’s just around the block)
• A full night of sleep (8 hours is my minimum)
• Long hugs (they really do make me feel better and more connected to my partner and kids).

That’s it.
Anything else is a bonus.

Audit your inputs

Mute the noise. Delete the saved posts. Unsubscribe from the overwhelm.

The more you scroll, the more you realize everyone has the “secret” to longevity and feeling the best.

But most people are filming those routines, not living them.

Instead....

find 1-2 people that you love on social media and mute the rest. For me that’s been Krista and Lindsay. Would love to know who you turn to for real-life wellness! Reply and let me know!!

And if anyone tells you to have a 20 step morning routine, take 20 steps away from your phone.

Self care or self hate?
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​Are you creating a routine based on your needs - or based on TikTok?

If your routine feels like punishment, it’s not self-care…. it's self-control in disguise.

If you miss one of your habits, how do you talk to yourself? Shame and guilt?

If yes, then how much care is actually baked into that version of self care?

TL;DR there is SO much information out there on how to optimize your life. The key word in that entire sentence is.....your. Not anyone else's.

If any of this resonates, I want to know!

Lindsey and Krista didn’t just write a book.
They created a permission slip.

Almost 30 is for anyone who’s hit all the right milestones and still feels like something’s missing. It’s raw, honest, healing.....and most of all, human.

Read it if you’re ready to stop outsourcing your worth and start coming home to yourself.

​Get the book here.​

xo,
Amanda

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